My Lying, cheating, mental (and thank god soon to be ex) wife

[AngryArry]

I met my wife a few years ago, we got married and she then put everyone through a living hell I wondered why she did this and have found out (since we split) that she was lying and colluding with her ex husband, cheating, stealing and has told some extremely malicious and elaborate stories to cover. And below is a list of what i have found out along with just a few of the things she has done.

1. She let her Ex husband Mr XXXXXX have access to all of the marital homes we have lived in by giving him keys to said properties.
2. 10/11 telling Mr XXXXXX she still loved him.
3. Disclosing intimate details to Mr XXXXXX:
(a) told Mr XXXXXX about starting contraceptive injection.
(b) told Mr XXXXXX she had all clear for sexual heath test.

4. asking Mr XXXXXX if he would like to get back together.
5. asking Mr XXXXXX on a date.
6. Near weekly discussions of our relationship status with Mr XXXXXX.
7. asking Mr XXXXXX to be next of Kin on joint account.
8. told Mr XXXXXX he is being added to joint account.
9. cleaning Mr XXXXXX house, (Mr XXXXXX was evicted from his previous rented property for uncleanliness)
10. Telling work colleagues that she was still married to Mr XXXXXX.

11. Asking mr XXXXXX how she could get me thrown out of the house, Mr XXXXXXs response was I dont think you can get him out unless he is violent; 4 weeks later mrs XXXXXX had me arrested(when I told the police what had happened in the house they took no further action)

12. Near weekly acts of extreme physical behaviour (running concurrently with points 1-11) towards myself resulting in the following.
(a) Visible lesions, bruises, bite marks and gouge/scratch marks all seen at various times by police, work colleagues, hospital staff and school teachers.
(b) Me having to Call the police.
(c) Visiting hospital for chest pain following kick and having to tell them I fell against a bed post to hide what was happening to me.
(d) Having to leave the house on many occasions to let her cool off, this included sleeping in my car at outside the house and staying overnight at both my parents houses.
(e) Having to lie to both friends and relatives as to why I was not visiting them.

13. Many acts of over controlling behaviour(running concurrently with points 1-11), examples include:
(a) Repeatedly looking through my phone by either using the threat of divorce or waiting until she thought I was asleep.
(b) Telling me I was not allowed to call my parents unless it was in front of her.
(c) Not being allowed to lock a toilet door whilst using the toilet.
(d) Needing to know exactly where I was at all times resulting in me having to purchase small value items on debit card to prove time
and location along with having to keep all receipts in case questioning ensued at a later date.
(e) Having to give full access to all internet accounts email, ebay, paypal, facebook etc. (I was not allowed any access to my wifes at any point)
(f) Constant verbal threats to myself directed at me and to my family if her demands (whatever they were at the time) were not met.
(g) Telling Mr XXXXXX that I could have him shot for £5000 (Mr xxxxx verbally confirmed this) to keep him on side by lieing.
(h) Telling Mr XXXXXX that I would burgle his house (Mr XXXXX verbally confirmed this) to keep him on side by lieing.
(i) On one occasion telling me I would be divorced if I did not leave my job(it was approximately 2 miles away from an ex girlfriends finished 2.5 years before I met my wife) place of work.)
(j) Telling me I would be divorced if I did not change my car, despite giving up my job to look after our son and having no funds to do so.
(k) Telling me I would be divorced if I did not purchase a new wardrobe of clothing, despite giving up my job to look after our son and having no funds to do so.
(l) Telling me I would be divorced for not securing a new job but telling me that I would be divorced if I (on the run upto Xmas) secured a job in any aspect of retail.
(m) Not being allowed to carry my mobile phone inside the marital home (it had to be left in a place where she could see it).
(n) If I mentioned my intention in the future too obtain a PC for myself this created many arguments as I was according to my wife not allowed to have my own computer despite my wife having 4 of her own laptops, and her other children having their own PCs at their fathers (mr XXXXxx) house
(o) Threatening me that I could not tell anyone what was happening in our relationship, whilst making jokes about it on social media sites and to her siblings.


14. Destruction/removal of my property(running concurrently with points 1-11) examples include:
(a) Laptop computer: Upon bringing said article into the marital home my wife demanded the password, when she entered it (too many times) incorrectly the computer locked itself. she then proceeded to (over a period of approx 10 minutes) repeatedly stamp on it , jump on it, kick it and throw it onto the floor and at myself (whilst I was holding our son) until it broke.
(b) Taking the hard drive from the above PC to Mr XXXXXXs house for examination then repeatedly denying it until Mr XXXXXX verbally confirmed this some months later(he confirmed points 13 (g)&(h) at the same time)
(c) On more than one occasion throwing my phone (at the time Nokia 6230) both at me / onto the floor resulting in the case coming apart.
(d) Taking my bunch of keys to gain access to my car and my fathers house, to check/rifle; through things, I still do not have them back.
(e) Ripping up birthday cards and cutting up clothes.
(f) Taking back a birthday present (Tag wrist watch)

15. Petty/serious arguements (running concurrently with points 1-11) resulting in the extreme behaviour (listed in point 10a) examples include:
(a) she accused me of checking out other women by looking at their reflections (on a sheet of riveted stainless steel in the back of a sandwich cabinet in a cafe in a large shopping center) despite her general poor eyesight, spots on one eye, the shape of the eye changing during/post pregnancy and not wearing glasses at the time. During the ensuing argument (after we had arrived back at the house) she calmly removed her jewellery, went down to the kitchen collected a carving knife came back and proceeded to threaten me with it whilst I was still holding our son, I put him in his cot we wrestled around and I threw the knife out of the window. She put the knife in the bin.
(b) On one occasion I laughed at two people that screamed in shock at being splashed by a car (travelling in the opposite direction), she accused me of checking them out resulting in a dinner plate of food being thrown over me later that evening.
(c) Repetitive arguments resulting from me being accused of cheating due to:
(i) Leaving earlier in the morning for work(this resulted in lower punctuality )
(ii) Having a shower in the morning before work.
(iii) Shaving in the morning before work.
(iv) Using any deodorant anti-perspirant or cologone in the morning before work.
(v) Appearing to be too happy or in too good a mood.
(vi) Being more than 8 minutes(typically) late home from work.(journey to/from work= M42, M6, M5, A4123)
(vii) Visiting the same location too many times ie more than twice a month eg a petrol station (as verified point 11c)
(viii) me leaving the house to let my wife cool off (point 10d)
(d) There were many times where my wife has told me to pack my stuff and get out of the house, claiming that she wanted a break, on one occasion november she told me she wanted to get back together and wanted to meet me at a coffeshop when I told her I did not want this anymore she begged me to stay with her. I said no and she lost her temper and stormed out. She saw me reading a newspaper through the window, stormed back in and punched me in the face(in front of the staff and customers) and called me a f***king C**t that had ruined everyones f**king lives. I got up and walked out she begged me not to go and tried to grab at me to pull me back, two passing police officers intervened.


16. My wife going on dates with various counterparts/work colleagues and checking the marital/relationship status of other men to see if they were available, along with informing Mr XXXXXX of her intentions with these people, examples include:
(a) September: Mr Y from london. I believe my wife was asked out by said person on the premise that she had separated from me.
(b) October: A colleagueaged 27: she described him to her ex husband that she was looking for a bit of fun;
(c) December: Police officer ZZZ: she also asked her sibling (at the time dating a police officer) to get his number.

17. Telling people that we had permanently separated in last year due to ahouse move when we actually permanently finished on this year.

18. Near weekly belittlement in front of children (running concurrently with points 1-11) examples include:
(a) Abuse over food preparation in front of her other son
To me: "This dinner is f*****g s**t, Im not eating this f*****g s**t its f*****g prison food,my son can do better than this f*****g s**t."
(b) Abuse over food choice in front of her daughter.
To me: (following the purchase of a family sized fresh apple pie)"im in an honest mood today, this apple pie is f*****g s**t why did you buy it? Its s**t! her daughter corrected her mothers manners at this point and was told off for back chat. Later my wife complained about her daughters bad manners and total lack of respect.
(c) Whilst attending her fathers house her son misbehaved and was told off by him I also told him off repeatedly for trying to knock the glass of water I was holding onto me. My wife was sitting less than 3 feet away, on return to our house my wife took her son upstairs, I walked in on the conversation to find her thanking her son for being well behaved.

19. My wife requested the phone numbers for other relatives (from her family) to sort me out. Whilst attending her mothers house one of them bit me on the ear, the other (on a later date) head butted me in my car and (later that evening) with the encouragement of my wife(present at the time) made thinly veiled threats.

20. During another visit to her mothers house one evening, someone made a joke about my wifes new hair colour and I laughed.On arrival at our home later that evening she (inebriated) threatened to have my parents beaten up and that she could get my dads house burgled for £10;(her relatives would all fail a CRB check) .

21. My wifes refusal to get help (medical or psychological) for her behaviour as she did not want it to be recorded in any written records.

You really dont know someone till you marry them!!!!

[TAZZMAXX]

Good first post, possibly a little too much detail for us to take in all at once though.

Welcome to the forum.

[Hazza]

I must admit I got a bit bored - tough break though. Which point mentions your skyline to save me reading it all?

[james1]

Sounds like she needs the hairy part of your hand ; )

J

[nick the tubman]

WTF?!?!?!

so how much BHP and what mods has it got then?

[TAZZMAXX]

By any chance, did she ever get annoyed with you for spending a lot of time typing on your computer? Just wondering.

[MIKEGTR]

That post is pointless without naked pics of her

[Kadir]

Originally Posted by MIKEGTR

That post is pointless without naked pics of her

LOL.

That woman sounds like a right nightmare.

I think I will keep my thoughts to myself!

[KM BlackGTR]

Tell us more about your Skyline !
What mods do you have lined up next ?

[Mookistar]

We are here to help.

[GhostWKD]

[stephenwap]

This has to be a piss take, who signs up to a car enthusiasts forum and on their first post mentions nothing about cars and instead writes an essay about their ex wife

[R33_GTS-t]

Probably something wrong with the airflow meter.

[Jags]

^^ its got to be an already registered member who wants to vent but doesn't want to do it using his own username

[REDWOOD]

^^ +1
It's amazing how much abuse people will take, male and female.
Move on fella before you flip and strangle her to death.